Why Small Daily Habits Change Everything!

“Why would I want to spend my time every day doing the same things over and over again? Isn’t this just a waste of my time?”

I’ve been asked this question over and over again and the answer is always no.

Because the only way our brain, our internal computer, can change, is when we reprogram it to do things differently.

The Science Bit and Why Change Feels So Hard

Joe Dispenza says that by the age of 35, if we are not consciously living, we become like robots, simply following a set of programmes every day. And he’s right. So many of our bad habits are set deep within our neural pathways. They’ve been running on autopilot for years.

The good news? It only takes 45–60 days to create a new habit. Your brain doesn’t know whether a habit is good or bad, it just follows what you do repeatedly and stores it as a routine.

The tricky part is, most of our habits live beneath our awareness.

A Lesson Served at the Dinner Table

I remember sitting down to dinner with my mum one day and she said, “Why are you so greedy?”

I nearly fell off my chair, me, greedy? Surely not!

What did she mean by that? Our nearest and dearest can be our biggest critics, and I could have taken offence, but I knew there was a big lesson here.

So I asked, “What do you mean? I’m a size 12, I’m not hugely overweight, how could I be greedy?”

She said, “You always have to pile your plate up and never leave anything behind.”

Wow. She was right. So I began to explore why.

Where It All Began

When I was small, I wasn’t allowed to leave the table until I had finished everything on my plate. It was torture. I didn’t have a big appetite and I had playing to do!

Sometimes, I sat there for two hours until my plate was empty. Other times, I was sent to bed for refusing to eat it all.

So, without even realising it, I created a programme in my mind:

“If I want to move forward in life, please my family and be free, I must finish everything in front of me, even when I don't want to.”

That became a lifelong habit. I would never have called myself greedy, but that was exactly the subconscious pattern I’d created and also it's in these times when my "people pleaser" was born.

Rewriting the Habit

Once I understood this, I decided to change. I started leaving food on my plate  and wow, was that hard.

Over and over again, I had that uncomfortable feeling that I needed to finish everything. I had to push through it until, eventually, my new habit was set in both my mind and my body.

Setting me free, one small step at a time.

Our habits don’t just get stuck in the brain, they embed in our body (muscle memory) and nervous system (feelings). Once they’re there, they’re hard to break. But not impossible.

How to Change a Habit: The Truth

After years of studying, reading, and learning, I’ve realised it comes down to three things:

  • Repetition
  • Perseverance
  • Pushing through the discomfort

So here’s my challenge to you:

Find one habit you know you have, maybe it’s having coffee in your favourite mug every morning, watching the same TV shows every night, or scrolling endlessly on social media.

Now, change it.

Then simply watch what comes up for you. It’s fascinating to notice how resistant we can be  and how much our inner voice protests.

That Voice in Your Head

“Oh, don’t worry about that, start next week!”
“Why do you want to change? What’s wrong with this habit?”
“Ignore her, she doesn’t know anything.”


Sound familiar? That’s your brain craving comfort and certainty, wanting to keep doing the same thing over and over again, even when it’s not good for you.

We’re All the Same (and That’s Okay). I often hear parents say to their children, “I’ve told you three times not to bang the door when you come in!”

They expect the child to instantly change. Then I ask those same parents, “How many times have you promised yourself you’ll give up chocolate, or alcohol  and have you done it?”

Usually, the answer is no. It’s easy to tell someone else to change, but so much harder to do it ourselves. It’s funny when you think about it.

The Power of making that change

So, back to the Daily Tasks, small promises we make to ourselves to do something good every day.

They matter more than you think. Each small act rewires your brain, changes those deep neural pathways, and transforms your habits, not just for today, but forever.

These small promises make you feel important to you. They help you commit to yourself. They create happiness in ways you never imagined.

Someone said to me recently, “HappyMe is dynamic in its simplicity.”

And it’s true. Finding happiness isn’t complicated, even though some apps and gurus might try to make it seem that way.

It’s about keeping those small promises, changing habits that don’t serve you anymore, and learning to truly love yourself.

Because that - loving yourself - is the most important thing in the world. 💛